Ayur Shakti: 2013

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Auto Conscientização Feminina

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love & marriage

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Being Present in Relationships

The Art of Seduction

The ecstasy of surrender

a woman is not definied...

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MUJER, UTERO Y VAGINAS. LUCES Y SOMBRAS

Artículo publicado en el Nº 34 del mes de Noviembre de 2010 de la Revista UNIVERSO HOLISTICO.

“Ser mujer significa ser un ciclo de cambio constante.” Surá Lillo

Entender las claves de la energía femenina es comprender, que bajo esas cualidades, la MUJER puede manifestar su naturaleza íntima.
Las claves de la energía femenina yacen en lo receptivo, en la quietud, la entrega, la apertura, la belleza, la cooperación, el amor incondicional, lo salvaje, el cambio, lo cíclico, la muerte y la transformación.
Cuando ya desde niñas somos educadas en patrones de pensamiento rígidos, tanto en el entorno familiar como en el social, la mujer no tiene referentes que aprueben su feminidad y sexualidad, sino que por el contrario, vive experiencias donde su femineidad es castrada, abusada y mutilada.
El arquetipo de la MUJER ha de superar, comprender e integrar el ARQUETIPO DE MADRE SINIESTRA, esta siniestralidad en la mujer emerge en su intento de supervivencia ante un sistema de creencias que la constriñe y la induce a ser quien no es.

SANGRE MENSTRUAL, SANGRE DE VIDA.
En mi experiencia como terapeuta he podido observar que en la mayoría de los casos la Mujer tiene una relación dolorosa con su menstruación, ignorando el mensaje que trae la Sangre Menstrual o “Sangre de vida” para ella.
La sangre menstrual guarda muchos misterios, nos muestra los ciclos de vida y muerte. Cada 29 días nos recuerda que estamos siempre en un proceso de cambio y transformación. Ella nos muestra nuestro mapa emocional, nuestro sentir como mujeres portadoras de VIDA.
La sangre menstrual es un aspecto de la mujer tabú, relacionado con un estar “indispuesta”, ”enferma”, “mala”. En la biblia se hace mención a este hecho tachando a la mujer de “impura” mientras menstrua. Esta memoria patriarcal perdura hasta nuestros días manifestándose en forma de menstruaciones dolorosas, sangrado escaso o abundante, ciclos irregulares…etc.
El dolor menstrual así como la irregularidad en el periodo, muestra un dolor profundo en relación a la energía femenina y la expresión de nuestra energía sexual.
Cuando la femineidad es negada, esto hace que la mujer no florezca, que no emerja su naturaleza intima.
La menstruación es un momento sagrado para la mujer, en estos días experimenta un aumento de su sensibilidad, en este tiempo vive momentos de verdad, auténticos que le permiten conectar con su verdadera esencia. Su sangre simboliza la sangre de vida, esa sangre contiene toda la información y fuerza de su linaje. Honrar su sangre y ofrendarla a la tierra es un acto de reconocimiento hacia ella misma, un acto de agradecimiento hacia sus ancestros y hacia la Madre Tierra.

LAS MUJERES DE HOY EN DÍA
Alguna vez te has preguntado como mujer ¿Cómo se siente tu útero?, ¿tu vagina?...
Desgraciadamente para muchas mujeres su aparato reproductor es un misterio. En este tiempo donde el tiempo escasea ante la larga lista de responsabilidades que carga la mujer, no existen espacios de exploración y experimentación donde la mujer pueda sentirse y escuchar lo que su cuerpo le está transmitiendo
La conexión con esta zona tan sagrada de su cuerpo está en manos de los profesionales médicos, y es en esas ocasiones donde la mujer descubre lo que le está sucediendo a su útero, vagina, ovarios, etc. Muchas veces es la propia medicina la que pronostica todo tipo de disfunciones como son quistes, miomas, pólipos, endometriosis, cáncer etc. Y ante la perplejidad e incomprensión de estas disfunciones, en la mayoría de los casos, la mujer cae presa del pánico, sintiendo que la única forma de que el problema se “estirpe” sea en la mesa de operaciones.
Hay momentos en que una operación quirúrgica puede devolvernos a la vida, pero desgraciadamente muchos de los problemas físicos persisten ya que no hay una toma de consciencia sobre la raíz emocional del problema. Hay infinidad de mujeres que, aun habiendo sido intervenidas quirúrgicamente de un mioma, por ejemplo, este tiene muchas posibilidades de reproducirse de nuevo.
Para evitar que esto suceda es necesario que recobremos la conexión con nuestro vientre. Pues las afecciones en el útero, la vagina, ovarios, trompas…etc. no son más que el grito del cuerpo ante la negación de nuestra naturaleza femenina. Esto implica en muchos casos problemas de infertilidad, quistes, pólipos, endometriosis, cáncer.
LA MATERNIDAD
El anhelo de la maternidad es un instinto noble, donde se muestra la entrega incondicional al futuro hijo y aunque lo deseemos con toda el alma los patrones reprimidos en el inconsciente, que tienen que ver con la toma de responsabilidad, miedo a la maternidad, a no ser lo suficiente capaces, suelen imperar frustrando nuestros intentos de ser madres.
Para ello lo único que podemos hacer el contratar costosos tratamientos para la fertilidad o tomar consciencia de nuestra sombra, de todo el peso de dolor y represión que cargamos, en relación con nuestra femineidad.
Ser madre es la vía más rápida y profunda para conectarte contigo misma y con tu sombra. Ante el miedo que le produce a la mujer no estar a la altura de las circunstancias, el embarazo puede llevar a la mujer a enfrentarse con sus miedos más profundos, si esto le añadimos el cóctel hormonal que se produce en el cuerpo, desde el punto de vista emocional, este trance puede ser un tanto traumático para la mujer y su futuro retoño. Cuando no afrontamos de una forma sana nuestros miedos y dudas ante la futura maternidad, este momento tan precioso para la mujer puede convertirse en un autentico calvario.

PARTO ORGÁSMICO
El parto es una iniciación para la mujer a su condición de madre. El primer parto es el tiempo en que la Mujer embiste la energía maternal de dadora de vida, de luz. En su rol de alumbradora “DA A LUZ”, la mujer reconoce su fuerza infinita.
“El útero es el órgano de expansión del placer por antonomasia” El parto orgásmico se produce porque el propio movimiento del útero es en sí mismo productor de placer, siempre que los músculos funcionen acompasadamente, según el proceso sexual normal; que es lo que sucede cuando el parto se produce de forma natural y se activa según la forma establecida filogenéticamente, por el sistema sexual de la mujer….. ()
Y esta es la otra pregunta importante: ¿cómo es posible que de forma tan generalizada el parto se produzca con dolor?()…
(…)El útero espástico es causa de forma inequívoca por la represión sexual de la mujer desde la infancia. Extraído del Artículo “Parto Orgásmico”. Casilda Rodrigañez
Como bien afirma Casilda Rodriguañez El “parto con dolor” atenta contra la verdadera naturaleza del parto que en verdad es “indoloro”. Si la mujer desconoce su útero, no lo alimenta, no lo ejercita, le lleva a vivir su femineidad en continuo conflicto.
El útero es una cavidad musculosa que al no estar entrenada y se ve atrofiada por el desuso, y la única forma de entrenar ese musculo es teniendo relaciones sexuales placenteras.
El parto sin dolor está directamente relacionado con la segregación de la Oxitocina, hormona que regula el orgasmo uterino y la segregación de leche materna, siendo la maternidad una expresión más de la sexualidad femenina.
Las mujeres no conocemos nuestro cuerpo, desconocemos partes las íntimas de nosotras mismas simplemente porque hemos sido programadas para rechazarlas. Porque creemos desde una parte muy inconsciente y profunda de nosotras mismas, que vivir nuestra sexualidad es”pecado”.
La vagina es el canal de nacimiento, es el canal de la vida, desde hay programamos la columna vertebral del nuevo ser que va a nacer en el momento del parto, el útero es el hogar, el nido para acoger al que llega. El cordón umbilical es la conexión con la madre, donde se da la nutrición dentro del útero.
Nuestros pechos son el alimento y la nutrición para el nuevo ser una vez nacido.

LA SOMBRA FEMENINA
Los ovarios “poli quísticos” muestran conflictos con la energía de creación en nuestras vidas, así los problemas en el útero, como la endometriosis, nos muestra un bloqueo en la expresión de nuestra verdadera esencia o identidad como mujeres. Las protuberancias en el aparato genital femenino muestran la frustración soterrada que vivimos como mujeres insatisfechas con nuestra condición femenina. Los pólipos, protuberancias en el útero, emergen ante el deseo frustrado de ser madres, suelen aparecer en la menopausia tiempo en el cual la mujer, si no ha cumplido con sus anhelos más internos, manifiesta todo ese contenido inconsciente en su cuerpo.
La anorgasmia o la frigidez representa una negación y mutilación de nuestra alegría de vivir, una negación de nuestra expresión como mujeres, también representa a mente controladora que tiene miedo de perder el control.
Todo ello es debido al sistema de creencias “Patriarcal”, que ha constreñido a la mujer y relegado a un segundo plano, Condenando su sexualidad.
EL ORGASMO FEMENINO
Para muchas mujeres la relación que tienen con la sexualidad es de culpa y vergüenza a manifestar esta energía.
El orgasmo vaginal y el misterioso PUNTO G, son para muchas mujeres una incógnita indescifrable. La frigidez, la candidiasis, la vaginitis….no son más que rechazos soterrados a vivir la sexualidad libremente , pues ahí en ese “momentum” el ego debe desaparecer, la mujer tiene miedo de ser ella misma sexualmente pues tiene el peso del Arquetipo de la “Puta”, arquetipo que la lleva a vivir su sexualidad con culpa y vergüenza.
La sexualidad sagrada es la gran lección que muchas parejas han de descubrir en este tiempo. De ahí que muchas culturas orientales nos hablen de alcanzar la iluminación en pareja a través de la energía sexual.
Hace 5000 años en lugares como Grecia donde se procesaba el culto a la Diosa dentro de las sociedades matrilineales o matriarcales, la sexualidad era manifestada de forma libre como un acto de amor a la vida. En estas sociedades ni siquiera estaba reconocido el hombre como parte de la fecundación. Las mujeres se reunían en determinados momentos de conjunciones planetarias para pedir fertilidad a la Diosa.
La llegada del patriarcado dio como consecuencia la persecución de la mujer y de sus prácticas sexuales y rituales a la Diosa.
ARQUETIPOS DE LA SOMBRA PATRIARCAL
Mª Magdalena encarnaría el Arquetipo de la “Prostituta”. La iglesia católica negó el papel fundamental que tuvo Mª Magdalena en la vida de Jesús relacionando su labor con el de una prostituta, grabando en la psique colectiva de la mujer la vergüenza y la culpa en la manifestación de nuestra esencia como mujeres. Para muchas mujeres escuchar la palabra puta, o prostituta les produce pudor, ya que lo asocian a algo burdo, bajo y despreciable.
Magdala fue una maestra en la artes de la medicina, (plantas) propulsora del 4º evangelio de Jesús, hecho que fue borrado de los registros con el fin de mantener en el anonimato su tremenda labor como maestra, seguidora y compañera de Jesús.
La iglesia en su interés por mantener la imagen de un solo Dios masculino, “creador del cielo y de la tierra” desterró a la mujer de ejercer el verdadero papel que por el mero hecho de ser mujer le es conferido: Guía, maestra, sabia, sacerdotisa, curandera, madre, educadora y Diosa.
Ante esto la mujer pierde su poder y pasa adorar al hombre como su único Dios, relegando incluso sus propios intereses y los de sus hijos por entregarle su poder”.
Esa energía de abnegación y entrega al hombre hace que se olvide de sí misma y de esa forma encarnada la sombra del arquetipo de “ESCLAVA”.
La mujer incluso, es capaz de amar a su verdugo, pero este amor es venenoso pues se vuelve contra ella, ahí es cuando su útero, su vagina, sus ovarios gritan pidiendo poder salir de la cárcel de su engaño.
En España no hace mucho tiempo y en la actualidad en muchos lugares del mundo, las relaciones sexuales entre hombres y mujeres solo pueden darse bajo el yugo del matrimonio y muchas veces estos enlaces no se daban desde el verdadero amor, sino desde la conveniencia o pacto entre las familias de los contrayentes, esto ha dado como resultado el nacimiento del Arquetipo de la “Madre Siniestra”.
La “Madre siniestra” es aquella mujer que proclamaba los dictámenes del varón acallando su propia alma, pagando un alto precio por ello. Así bajo este prisma, la maternidad es vivida bajo niveles de violencia reprimida que es proyectada hacia los hijos y el cónyuge.
Según Bert Hellinger en sus estudios con las constelaciones familiares, si la relación con la madre es deficiente esto nos afectará en el modo en que nos enfrentemos a la vida.
Dentro del reinado de la “Madre Siniestra” se manifiesta el Arquetipo de la “Niña-niño heridos”. Así la MUJER es ya desde la niñez o adolescencia sentenciada a vivir desde el arquetipo de “Niña herida” indefensa ante las vicisitudes de la vida, temerosa de los deseos irrefrenables de hombre, desprotegida y desorientada ante su propia naturaleza íntima.
Ana Silvia Serrano en su obra Osiris, el huevo de Obsidiana, desmiembra la psique femenina, en los arquetipos de la sombra, que según Carl Jung, la mujer arrastra por el mero hecho de ser mujer. Así rememorar nuestras vivencias como esclavas, niñas heridas, madres siniestras, sexualmente reprimidas se vuelve necesario si queremos realmente conocernos a nosotras mismas. Su terapia con Geometrías de Obsidiana, es un camino de “individuación” donde la mujer recorre y libera conscientemente los arquetipos de la sombra femeninos productos del patriarcado.
Es necesario que escuchemos a nuestras vaginas, a nuestros úteros a las mismísimas entrañas pues ahí clama tu esencia femenina que ante la imposibilidad de manifestarse agoniza.
El hombre necesita que la mujer lo guie ha reencontrase con su verdadera esencia , enseñarle a amar y respetar a la Diosa que hay dentro de la mujer que ama, pero para ello la mujer ha de honrar la Diosa que es, respetar su esencia.
Conocernos a nosotras mismas, en todas nuestras facetas nos ayuda a evolucionar como personas, la energía bloqueada entorno al tabú de la sexualidad en la mujer está creando estragos. Hemos de reconocer la sombra en nuestra psique, liberarla en conciencia con el fin de que aflore la flor que anida en el interior de nuestro útero.
Hacer el amor debiera entenderse como un acto sagrado de encuentro entre el hombre y la mujer, un “momentun” donde el “ego” desaparece, un momento de verdadera conexión.
Así el orgasmo sería una energía pura que nos ayuda a sanar las memorias de dolor y sufrimiento. Mujer despierta!
Surá Lillo.
Terapeuta Holístico & Geometrías de Obsidiana. (Método Ana Silvia Serrano)

Your Sexuality: Ask & Tell

Tantra is not the yoga of sex. Tantra is the yoga of everything.

On some yogic and spiritual paths, the attitude to life is via negativa, and the world is seen as a cause for suffering, as giving us a sense of false identity when we are attached to it. So the yogi’s task becomes to disengage, to free ourselves from suffering or from the attachment, to become a witness to it all.

But that is not the attitude of Tantra. In Tantra we actually want to get engaged, tangled up in the world with our spirit still shining.

The attitude of Tantra is that even our suffering, even our attachment is our yoga, our spirituality. In Tantra all problems are potential friends, allies, a support system for deeper understanding, deeper love.

The key to being a Tantric yogi or yogini is to embrace duality and then go deep into and then beyond it. Why? Because duality is just another expression of nonduality. In other words, there is, according to Tantra, Spirit, God, Awareness, Consciousness in everything. Even in suffering. Even in pleasure.

This knowledge, this wisdom is called Madhuvidya, or honey knowledge, the idea that the bees of Sprit can turn everything we do and feel, even failure, into nectar.

Here are 7 unique ways of Tantric spirituality:

1. Tantra embraces the idea that attraction is the law of the universe.

And then, like a tai chi master, Tantra moves with the energy of attraction toward freedom from attachment, from suffering.

We are attracted to inspiring art, romantic sex, beautiful music and poetry; we are attracted to the Divine.

When we are attracted to the Divine, it is called prema, or spiritual love. When we are attracted to money, land, fame, sex, it is called kama, or desire. In Tantra, the yogi is advised to turn kama into prema—to see everything as sacred, as Divine.

“For those pure in mind, everything is pure.”

–Georg Feuerstein, from Tantra: The Path of Ecstasy

Bees are attracted to pollen, some lilies have a romantic relationship with the moon, and mystical poets, such as Rumi and Mirabai, are insanely attracted to the Divine.

In Bhakti Yoga, the yoga of Divine Love, we express our spirituality through longing and love for God. Bhakti Yogis see emotions—even anger, even loneliness—as great vehicles to enhance spiritual devotion. Through spiritual longing, we open our hearts for greater vulnerability and union, greater ecstatic bliss and communion with the Divine. That is, if we really and truly long for Sacred communion.

“In truth there is neither purity nor impurity. Therefore he who is free from such notions is happy.”

–Vijana Bairava Tantra

Tantra is often called the path of ecstasy. Like all spiritual paths, Tantra is not a dogma, not religion, not a belief system—even though it is classified as a religion by many scholars and believers. Even though I and many other writers sometimes refer to Tantra as either Hindu Tantra or Buddhist Tantra, this path is, in its inner essence, a spiritual practice, a way of life and a philosophy that expresses the perennial essence of our human quest for spiritual realization. It is, like your posture yoga practice, just what it is in the moment.

2. Tantra sees everything as sacred.

Everything is God or Goddess. The consciousness within everything, the latent intelligence in the universe is God, or Shiva. The latent energy, the creative force of the universe is Goddess, or Shakti. Together in cosmic union, these alchemical lovers unite as Brahman, the ultimate Consciousness beyond name, form, attachment.

“Jagadananda, or world bliss, is the understanding that the realization of the Self includes everything, within and without.”

–Abhinava Gutpta, from the Tantra Loka

So, in Tantra, everything is Brahma. Everything is sacred. Everything we experience is an opportunity to practice yoga; to be a yogi or a yogini.

Tantra represents our universal quest for truth within and beyond the world of science and religion. Based on a spiritual worldview and yogic practices, the Tantric lifestyle helps us to invoke the sacred in everyday life.

3. Tantric love is a form of Bhakti Yoga.

Tantra, which often is termed Tantra Yoga, cannot be divorced from the inner essence of its own spiritual heart, from the experience of Bhakti, from the expression of spiritual love.

American poet Robert Bly aptly describes Bhakti Yoga as the path where “the bee of the heart stays deep inside the flower, and cares for no other thing.”

One early morning a couple of years ago, while waiting for Robert Bly to get ready so I could drive him to the airport after a poetry reading and a workshop I had organized for him, he asked me: “Do you know what this country needs?” And without letting me get much time to suggest an answer, he simply said: “Praise!”

Then, wide awake at around 5 AM, he started reciting from memory various sacred poems satiated with the fierce sweetness of Bhakti; including these lines by Kabir, from Bly’s popular book Kabir: Ecstatic poems.

“When the Guest is being searched for,

it is the intensity of the longing for the Guest that

does all the work.

Look at me, and you will see a slave of that intensity.”

This focus on passionate love is integral to Tantra as it turns desire and attachment, the very antithesis of spiritual liberation, into an alchemical fuel for love and the emancipation of Spirit by worshiping all as God.

Thus the bee of the heart goes so deep into what it loves that it transforms into love itself. To become that love is the goal of the love-intoxicated path of Tantra.

Tantric love is about creating spiritual oneness and union. Tantra is about feeling connected to and awed by the spiritual essence of the universe. And what is this essence? It has many names: God, Spirit, Godhood, Tao, Allah, or simply The One.

Kevala Bhakti is considered the deepest form of bhakti yoga in Tantra. The devotee simply loves the Divine without asking anything in return. Kevala means only, so the devotee loves for the sake of love, only love.

“Kevala Bhakti is not attained by baths, exercises, or efforts.”

–Shrii Anandamurti, from Subhasita Samgraha

That is, Kevala Bhakti is revealed in the heart when the alchemy of longing has been exhausted and turns into pure love, pure being.

4. Tantra is cosmic union. Tantra is worldly union.

In Tantra, the essence of the universe is called Brahma, or Cosmic Consciousness. And, as mentioned above, this Brahma is composed of Shiva and Shakti, the dual expressions of Brahma. How? Just like light and heat are inseparably one with fire, yet also its dual expressions.

Shiva is Brahma as pure Cosmic Consciousness, and Shakti is Brahma as Cosmic Creative Energy, the force behind creation, the force that created you and me.

Shiva and Shakti, like a wave and a particle in quantum physics, are never separate. They are always together, always the same. They are simply two different expressions of the same universal Brahman.

Remembering these primal aspects of the world, we open up to see and experience oneness in duality everywhere. We open up to feelings of spiritual connectedness and love.

The primal, evolutionary force of Shakti—which is both real and symbolic—is that which inspires us toward illumination and wisdom. Yet the same force has the capacity to blind us, to drive us away from truth and self-realization.

Hence, Tantra is worldly union when we truly experience the world as spirit, as sacred.

“The real knowledge issues from the mystic unification of Shiva and Shakti. It is the cause of liberation.”

–Tantraloka

5. Tantra is not about indulgence, not about more sex, or more money, or more vitality.

That’s the trap Tantra can lead you into. Lead you into thinking that, if all is sacred, then more of everything is better. More sex. More money. Actually, Tantra warns you that everything in this world can be a trap. Can lead to pain.

That’s because the duality of wisdom and ignorance, Vidya and Avidya Shakti, exists at the very root of creation and life itself. Thus, no matter at which stage we are on the spiritual path, there is always the possibility of being a total jerk, a total failure.

So, Tantra is about being aware, being connected to God/Goddess when you are making love and money. But that takes practice. That takes discipline. So Tantra is not about indulgence but all about deep practice, deep meditation, and deep love.

Hence, there is always a need for spiritual vigilance, always a need to personify a deep, spiritual ethic, and always a need to transcend our own limitations and ignorance. Duality and nonduality walks down the road of life, hand in hand.

“Those who let the body decay, destroy the spirit;

And they won’t attain the powerful knowledge of truth.

Having learned the skill of fostering the body,

I fostered the body, and I nurtured the soul.

The Perfect One has entered the temple of the body.”

~ Tirumular (7^th century Tantric sage)

6. Tantra is the path of sacred love and (sometimes) the path of sacred sex.

The path of Tantra is about experiencing spiritual bliss, to soak the human heart with divine Spirit. Thus, it is often said in the yogic scriptures that Bhakti Yoga, the path of ecstatic love, is the best and safest path.

This Yoga of Love is beautifully exemplified in the life and poetry of Rumi, who said, “The taste of milk and honey is not it. Love instead that which gave deliciousness.”

That’s Madhuvidya. That’s honey knowledge.

In other words, love that which is within and beyond all physical forms and expressions. Love that which is within and beyond food, sex, fame, and money. Especially when eating, having sex, attaining fame and earning money!

“Just as the waters enter the ocean, full and of unmoving ground, so all desires enter him who attains peace, but not the desirer of desires.”

~ Bhagavad Gita

7. Tantra is seeing love in everything.

Tantra is the path of via positiva. Tantra is an affirmative path. The path of embracing life’s challenges. No need to kill the Buddha on the path of Tantra. Just embrace him. Just love him.

As the Tantrics will say, when you cultivate love for that which gives you all that is delicious in life, namely Brahman, you will eventually experience love in everything. That is the spirit of Tantra. That is the alchemy of Tantric love.

This, then, is the path of Tantric Love—the path that leads us to experience the unity of Shiva and Shakti in our own hearts and minds, and, hence, to the realization that the Divine can be experienced everywhere.

“When salt dissolves, it becomes one with the ocean. When my ego dissolved, I became one with Shiva and Shakti.”

~ Jnaneshvar (Tantric sage)

Tantra is the yoga of transformation and of transmutation. Through the spiritual practices of posture yoga, mantra meditation, pranayama, chanting, etc., a Tantrika churns longing into love and melts separation into togetherness. This form of alchemical spirituality, where even our failures can become “honey knowledge,” is insightfully and lyrically articulated in this poem by the Spanish poet Antonio Machado (1875-1939), and translated by Robert Bly.

The Great Wall of Vagina Exhibition

Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman

quinta-feira, 1 de agosto de 2013

namora uma rapariga que lê

Namora uma rapariga que lê. Namora uma rapariga que gaste o dinheiro dela em livros, em vez de roupas. Ela tem problemas de arrumação porque tem demasiados livros. Namora uma rapariga que tenha uma lista de livros que quer ler, que tenha um cartão da biblioteca desde os doze anos.Encontra uma rapariga que lê. Vais saber que é ela, porque anda sempre com um livro por ler dentro da mala. É aquela que percorre amorosamente as estantes da livraria, aquela que dá um grito imperceptível ao encontrar o livro que queria. Vês aquela miúda com ar estranho, cheirando as páginas de um livro velho, numa loja de livros em segunda mão? É a leitora. Nunca resistem a cheirar as páginas, especialmente quando ficam amarelas.
Ela é a rapariga que lê enquanto espera no café ao fundo da rua. Se espreitares a chávena, vês que a espuma do leite ainda paira por cima, porque ela já está absorta. Perdida num mundo feito pelo autor. Senta-te. Ela pode ver-te de relance, porque a maior parte das raparigas que lêem não gostam de ser interrompidas. Pergunta-lhe se está a gostar do livro.
Oferece-lhe outra chávena de café com leite.
Diz-lhe o que realmente pensas do Murakami. Descobre se ela foi além do primeiro capítulo da Irmandade. Entende que, se ela disser ter percebido o Ulisses de James Joyce, é só para soar inteligente. Pergunta-lhe se gosta da Alice ou se gostaria de ser a Alice.
É fácil namorar com uma rapariga que lê. Oferece-lhe livros no dia de anos, no Natal e em datas de aniversários. Oferece-lhe palavras como presente, em poemas, em canções. Oferece-lhe Neruda, Pound, Sexton, cummings. Deixa-a saber que tu percebes que as palavras são amor. Percebe que ela sabe a diferença entre os livros e a realidade – mas, caramba, ela vai tentar fazer com que a vida se pareça um pouco com o seu livro favorito. Se ela conseguir, a culpa não será tua.
Ela tem de arriscar, de alguma maneira.
Mente-lhe. Se ela compreender a sintaxe, vai perceber a tua necessidade de mentir. Atrás das palavras existem outras coisas: motivação, valor, nuance, diálogo. Nunca será o fim do mundo.
Desilude-a. Porque uma rapariga que lê compreende que falhar conduz sempre ao clímax. Porque essas raparigas sabem que todas as coisas chegam ao fim. Que podes sempre escrever uma sequela. Que podes começar outra vez e outra vez e continuar a ser o herói. Que na vida é suposto existir um vilão ou dois.
Porquê assustares-te com tudo o que não és? As raparigas que lêem sabem que as pessoas, tal como as personagens, evoluem. Excepto na saga Crepúsculo.
Se encontrares uma rapariga que leia, mantém-na perto de ti. Quando a vires acordada às duas da manhã, a chorar e a apertar um livro contra o peito, faz-lhe uma chávena de chá e abraça-a. Podes perdê-la por um par de horas, mas ela volta para ti. Falará como se as personagens do livro fossem reais, porque são mesmo, durante algum tempo.
Vais declarar-te num balão de ar quente. Ou durante um concerto de rock. Ou, casualmente, na próxima vez que ela estiver doente. Pelo Skype.
Vais sorrir tanto que te perguntarás por que é que o teu coração ainda não explodiu e espalhou sangue por todo o peito. Juntos, vão escrever a história das vossas vidas, terão crianças com nomes estranhos e gostos ainda mais estranhos. Ela vai apresentar os vossos filhos ao Gato do Chapéu e a Aslam, talvez no mesmo dia. Vão atravessar juntos os invernos da vossa velhice e ela recitará Keats, num sussurro, enquanto tu sacodes a neve das tuas botas.
Namora uma rapariga que lê, porque tu mereces. Mereces uma rapariga que te pode dar a vida mais colorida que consegues imaginar. Se só lhe podes oferecer monotonia, horas requentadas e propostas mal cozinhadas, estás melhor sozinho. Mas se queres o mundo e os mundos que estão para além do mundo, então, namora uma rapariga que lê.
Ou, melhor ainda, namora uma rapariga que escreve.

Texto de Rosemary Urquico

da Vida, um Eterno Amor

De tudo, ficaram três coisas:

A certeza de que estamos sempre a começar...

A certeza de que de precisamos continuar...

A certeza de que seremos interrompidos antes de terminar...

Portanto devemos:

Fazer da interrupção um caminho novo...

Da queda um passo de dança...

Do medo, uma escada...

Do sonho, uma ponte...

Da procura, um encontro...

(Fernando Pessoa)

... é tempo...

… é tempo de ires ao fundo da caixa do teu tesouro e removeres de lá aquelas partes mais escuras que ainda te abalam o amor-próprio e a autoestima. É tempo de olhares de frente para o medo da solidão, do abandono e da separação. É hora de captares a profundidade dessas dores e chorá-las… são águas de emoções que estão estagnadas há décadas ou até mesmo há milénios… Imaginas o que é ter algo guardado dentro de ti há milénios, mas que vida após vida, experiência após experiência, surge uma e outra vez para te recordar que está lá, que existe e que é real?

Em quantos momentos das tuas experiências te sentiste paralisar de medo porque alguém que tu amavas te abandonou ou partiu deixando-te sozinho/a? Em quantos desses momentos sentiste a dor a dilacerar o teu Coração deixando na ilusão de que tudo estava perdido, nomeadamente a razão de viver? Quantas vezes, meu irmão, minha irmã, deixaste de manifestar essa dor para a reprimires e camuflares, arrastando essa âncora durante anos e anos e anos?

......... pergunto-te – como poderás almejar tu a superação do patamar da Humanidade para encontrares o Divino, se não te permites a manifestar em plenitude o Divino na Humanidade? Como podes tu reclamar para ti o patamar de sublimação da matéria se ainda tens em ti, no teu ADN e nas tuas células, memórias emocionais reprimidas e recalcadas que te escusas a ouvir e sentir? Não há plenitude na omissão. Não há Verdade no caminho que não abarca o TODO a começar pelo TODO em ti mesmo/a.

… convidamos-te a ires fundo nas tuas emoções. A abrires REALMENTE o teu Coração e descobrires o que aí guardas para lá do ouro e da luz… pois sem abraçares essa sombra, esses medos, essas inseguranças, não poderás atingir a unificação em ti mesmo/a. Chora, partilha, liberta, entrega e rende! Sê inteiro/a! Não sejas menos do que ÉS em todo o teu esplendor sagrado e divino, enquanto humano e espírito!

Excerto de mensagem
Arcanjo Miguel através de Isabel Angélica
(www.terrasdelyz.net)

segunda-feira, 29 de julho de 2013

FASES DA LUA E INFLUÊNCIA NA ENERGIA SEXUAL #3 - Quarto Minguante

A fase minguante da Lua corresponde, em termos do ciclo menstrual da mulher, à fase após a ovulação até à menstruação, representando um período de avaliação e reflexão que convida a reduzir o ritmo, a descansar e a virar-nos para dentro (efeito sobretudo da progesterona). Ao agirmos desde modo, aumentamos a sintonização com a nossa sabedoria interior, sendo que evidências científicas demonstram que o hemisfério cerebral direito, que está relacionado com a intuição é estimulado, diminuindo a atividade do hemisfério esquerdo, relacionado com a lógica e a racionalidade.

Tende-se a não entender e, até mesmo, a julgar a natural introspecção e desaceleração biofisiológica da mulher como má e improdutiva, mas isso deve-se ao facto de que o sentir, o não pensar, o intuir, o sonhar e o profetizar serem incoerentes com os valores da sociedade capitalista dominante.

Em termos sexuais, a energia da fase minguante traz também desafios, pois traduz-se na energia poderosa da sedutora, plena de erotismo, profundidade, gestos selvagens e intensidade extrema. o que se afasta do padrão convencional induzido para a mulher, de carinho, subtileza, generosidade, recetividade e passividade. Se não é expressa na sua totalidade, podem adensar-se os efeitos pré-menstruação associados a agressividade, irritabilidade, frustração, criticismo sobretudo a nós próprias, carência, defensividade, além de dores abdominais.

Como honrar e beneficiar da energia sexual nesta fase?

* Assumindo a iniciativa: de se render ao auto-prazer, de convidar o parceiro para um momento de intimidade, de se declarar, de propor novas posições, cenários, fantasias;
* Acedendo ao lado selvagem e puramente instintivo que todas as mulheres têm: renda-se à expressão que o seu corpo-templo quer assumir (movimentos, gestos, sons);
* Desconstruindo e libertando-se de todos os pré-conceitos e juízos de valor, bem como de memórias da sua educação e vivência passada, que já não sirvam à mulher que hoje é e áquela que quer assumir;
* Permitindo-se soltar e partilhar toda a sensualidade e erotismo que reserva em si, quer no visual que adopta, quer na forma como fala ou escreve, quer dos cenários e ambientes que cria;
* Rendendo-se à experiência transcendente em termos de consciência e cura que a sexualidade permite, ao estarmos plenamente abertos a sentir a energia gerada e a entregarmo-nos aos múltiplos caminhos prazeirosos a que nos pode levar.

Desperte para as múltiplas faces que a energia feminina tem; respeite-Se e cumpra-Se!

Por Tamar | O Mel da Deusa - Sexualidade sagrada para mulheres

quinta-feira, 18 de julho de 2013

perfeição?

quarta-feira, 17 de julho de 2013

5 Tips on Becoming a Seductress

When most people hear the word “seductress,” certain images pop into their head.

First of all, the seductress must be impossibly beautiful. She must also be a sex bomb. Lastly, she is the sort of woman that mere mortal woman can can never be friends with and must hide their men from her lest she “steal” them. (These women aren’t out for friendship. They just want your man.)
Turns out all of the above are myths.
According to academic Betsy Prioleau who has written extensively on the subject, seductresses comes in many guises and most look more like the girl-next-door than Angelina Jolie. While it’s true that stunning looks may initially attract a man and cause them to lust, keeping and maintaining that interest is a whole ‘nother story. History is full of examples of women who managed to grab the hearts of rich, power, famous man who left many scratching their heads and wondering, “What exactly does he see in her?” It turns out these women’s greatest assets were their brains and personalities than their looks. Below is a list of some of the traits many have in common as well as a examples of seductresses who didn’t quite fit the myth:

1. Cultivate a sense of curiosity and knowledge and share it with others.

As recently as the 1950s, many how-to-books on how to “land a man” warned that girls who were too smart should be cautious about showing it to most men lest the poor dears feel intimated by having a girl who was smarter than they were.
Legendary Queen of the Nile, Cleopatra, would have laughed at that. Despite popular myth, Cleopatra was no beauty. Reports vary as to what she looked like, but one thing that is certain: she did not look Elizabeth Taylor. The overall consensus is that she was short, large-breasted, and had a prominent, beak-like nose. In all the reports by people who actually met her, none mention that she was pretty but all mention that she was highly intelligent and with a knack for languages. That latter was especially important when it came to managing her kingdom. Though Queen of Egypt, Cleopatra came from a line of Greek rulers and was the only one of them to actually learn Egyptian. She understood the importance of communication which served her both politically and personally.
Despite the reputation as a sex goddess, there is only proof that she ever had sex with two men: Julius Caesar and Mark Anthony. Like her, both of these men loved power, and Cleopatra was a shrew politician. Most historians believe that this common interest-rather than sex-is what drew these two powerful men to her and kept them interested.

2. Treat a man like your equal-not your superior.

This is an important one. It’s so easy to feel like you’re back in high school when a man you thought was “unattainable” shows interest in you. However, when you are tempted to ask what he sees in you, ask yourself instead why he shouldn’t be interested in you?
One of my favorite examples of this is Yoko Ono and John Lennon.
Now, a lot of people don’t like Ono.
They claim she broke up the Beatles, that she controlled Lennon, etc. Maybe that’s true or maybe it isn’t. However, one thing they cannot deny is that Ono refused to see Lennon as a god and instead, saw him as a man. Patti Boyd, the ex-wife of Lennon’s bandmate George Harrison and guitar legend Eric Clapton, wrote in her recent memoir that “Yoko. . . was everything that [his then-wife] and probably every other woman he had ever met was not. She was . . . afraid of nothing and she didn’t fall into the stereotype of the subservient woman that John had been used to.”
While some may ask, “Why wouldn’t she have been like that?” remember that this was the height of Beatlemania. They were “bigger than Jesus.” Women constantly threw themselves at all of them but especially Lennon. Everyone except Ono that is.
Maybe it had to do with the fact that she was a Japanese aristocrat and was not fazed by his success or that she was an outspoken feminist way before feminism was popular. I think it was probably a mixture of both. In any case, there was no denying that despite the rocky times in the relationship Lennon was smitten by her and remained so up to his untimely death.

3. Be sexy and know true sexiness has nothing to do with your physical appearance.

Seductresses are often said to have a sexiness that cannot be captured in pictures. Part of that is having a sense of humor, and confidence including the confidence to be true to themselves no matter how tough things get. It’s not always easy. I tend to think of that infamous Princess Diana-Prince Charles-Camilla-triangle that rocked the British monarchy and the rest of the world.
I’ve know a few people who met Camilla, the current Duchess of Cornwall, including a hallmate of mine in graduate school who lived in the same village when she was still married to her first husband. They all said Camilla was funny and surprisingly sexy. Now “sexy” probably isn’t the first thing that comes to mine. (Diana was said to say she couldn’t understand why her husband craved the older, less-attractive “other woman” who in her words “was hardly an oil painting.” ) However, Camilla is said to be one of those women who radiates confidence and is comfortable in her own skin.
Camilla was so confident that she reportedly ended her relationship with Charles and went on to marry another man. Now, while it’s arguable that they should have married in the first place and spared everyone-especially Diana a ton of pain in the long run-it speaks a lot that she moved on from the man who was at the time The Most Eligible Bachelor in the World.
When Camilla’s role in breaking up the royal marriage came to light, and she became one of the most hated women in the world, that confidence was apparent by what she did not do.
She did not attempt to explain away her role or issue statements like, “That marriage was in trouble way before we resumed a relationship. It would have ended with or without me.”
She didn’t even get a new haircut when jokes about her looks became the norm.
When it was revealed that Diana’s nickname for her was “The Rottweiler,” Camilla was reportedly more amused than bothered by that and even answered the phone by saying, “Rottweiler here.”
To this day, there are still many who dislike Camilla but few can deny that the woman seems to have both confidence and a sense of humor about herself.

4. Have a life of your own-not one wrapped around his.

This can be tough. I’ve lost myself in the men I have been involved with. However, all the seductresses in history seemed to have their own interests and their own lives.
Think of the legendary designer Coco Chanel. Now there were many things not to like about Chanel including her coziness with the Nazis during WWII, but few would argue she was a pioneer in so many ways including being one of the first women to launch a multimillion dollar clothing empire that is still very popular today. She also had many men fall out in love with her during her life and ended an engagement with the Duke of Westminster saying, “There have been several Duchesses of Westminster but there is only one Chanel!”
I hesitantly mention Priscilla Chan, aka Mrs. Mark Zuckerberg, because she and her husband try to live low-key and keep their personal lives as private as possible. However, one thing that is known is that Chan is known to many as Dr. Chan. She married Zuckerberg right after she completed medical school. While many women in her situation would be tempted to quit their jobs and fill their days shopping and getting beauty treatments, she is currently a medical resident. Now, a lot of women with millionaire and billionaire husbands start businesses, but many of them are little more than hobbies. It’s pretty impossible to be a hobby doctor.
I remember a lot of snide comments when they married, mostly about Chan’s looks and how Zuckerberg could have married a Victoria’s Secret model-type. I am sure he could have. However, he got something far more valuable: a woman who seems to love him for him and was with him well before Facebook was ever started. Frankly, I think the argument can be made that he’s the lucky one. (Plus, I confess that I happen to think they look cute together.)
This brings me to the last and most important one.

5. Live for yourself.

Despite this title, this list isn’t about attracting a man. It’s about enhancing your life and allowing you to be entranced by your own great self. This is different from being a narcissist, because a true seductress cares about others. She charms both women and men and truly engages with those she is around. She may even single, but if she’s with someone, they are together because there is a true connection between them.
As the above example illustrate, you don’t need to be beautiful to do that. You don’t even have to have everyone like you. In fact, many of these women I mention are controversial and had and continue to have their share of haters.
However, one thing that is undeniable is that they marched to the beat of their own drum, and they had that “it” factor which made some of the world’s most famous and powerful men fall for them over all others.

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Ed: Sara Crolick

quarta-feira, 10 de julho de 2013

carícia

É alarmante ser-se acariciado quando se espera ser ferido.

Bernard-Marie Koltès

segunda-feira, 1 de julho de 2013

love

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aprende a decir No

segunda-feira, 10 de junho de 2013

samba noir

sábado, 1 de junho de 2013

appreciation

A good man will tell you he loves you for all the things he appreciates about you.

A magnificent man will love you for all the things you've struggled to appreciate about yourself.

Graham R White.

sábado, 25 de maio de 2013

tantra is the natural way

"Tantra is the natural way; the loose and the natural is the goal. You need not fight with the current; simply move with it, float with it. The river is going to the sea so why fight? Move with the river, become one with the river: surrender. Surrender is the keyword for Tantra; will is the keyword for Yoga. Yoga is the path of will; Tantra is the path of surrender.

"That's why Tantra is the path of love – love is surrender. This is the first thing to understand; then Tilopa's words will become very, very crystal-clear. The different dimension of Tantra has to be understood – the vertical dimension, the dimension of surrender, of not fighting, of being loose and natural, relaxed – what Chuang Tzu calls, "Easy is right." With Yoga, difficult is right; with Tantra, easy is right.

"Relax and be at ease, there is no hurry. The whole itself is taking you on its own accord. You need not make any individual striving, you are not asked to reach before your time, you will reach when the time is ripe – simply wait. The whole is moving; why are you in a hurry? Why do you want to reach before others?"

Osho, Tantra: The Supreme Understanding, Talk #6